Parents love their children care about is human nature. This love is to cultivate children's feelings of good moral character and behavior based on the absence of such love, it would not be education, it is difficult to achieve good educational results, but the love and not religion, controls are lax, naturally can not be achieved education purpose. Therefore, parents educate their children, we should pay attention to our concern and care and stringent requirements together, so that love and not drowning, but not Li Yan.
1, love instead of drowning
Parents care for their children's care should be conducive to physical and mental health as a prerequisite for a child to leave this premise, it is easy to look the child and runs counter to the aspirations of talent. Parents love their children should be rational, measured, and must not be spoiled, or else it will become the bane of abnormal development of the child physically and mentally.
In real life, many parents put their children's concern and care into a spoiled, especially in the one-child families, the performance of more prominent. Grandparents and parents to their children as "little emperors" blindly the spoil, preferences and shield their mistakes, their children's demands obedience and responsive. On the child's bad moral character and habits do not criticize or education, tend to shield or cover up. All matters of food and clothing by parents acting on their behalf, the children so that parents do, parents will do everything to the child as the center, so that the child lived in the rice to open one's mouth, hand out clothes, lazy, indolent life, develop a kind of selfish, self-willed, imperious, defiant of authority, do whatever they like bad moral character and habits, those bad habits goes on, the consequences are unimaginable. It is said that the child's spoiled obedience is to promote the kids embark on the beginning of the road, unfortunately. This is every parent deserves careful consideration.
Doting different forms, but the common feature of these parents are not their children as the future of the state and society, but as private property of individuals, forgetting the child develop a useful person for the building of socialist modernization the basic objective of . The result can only be indulgent pit Hailehaizi suffer due to natural state and society, but to bear the brunt boomerang the children's parents. As the doting parents for children to develop bad habits, it is difficult discipline to the family and society are numerous examples of harm.
Parents love their children to do instead of drowning, should note the following points:
First, parents should be rational, measured way concern and care for children, both parents make a child feel genuine love, to feel the warmth of the family, can stimulate the desire of its positive, but also so that parents and other family child care members, and gradually to make the children within its capacity to do some self-service labor and domestic work, which will not only help to cultivate children's love of labor, care for the collective good qualities, but also something to fostering children's intellectual and self-sufficiency.
Second, parents should treat their children the proper requirements.
People are in need, but also multi-faceted, often also endless. The demand for children to specific analysis, to the actual economic situation of the family and the child's physical and mental health conducive to the premise can not be docile and obedient, responsive. Too much to meet the needs of the child is apt to cause the child too much desire to cultivate more and more greedy habit. Once the parents are unable to meet its demands, is bound to cause the child's dissatisfaction, making it difficult to discipline. When its strong desire but are not met, it is easy to go Xiemenwaidao, it is every parent needs attention.
Third, the reasonable demands of the child in the family circumstances, would be met as far as possible. If a child asked to buy some good for growth of knowledge, development of intelligence, rich spiritual life of children's paintings and necessary, entertainment products, should generally be met. If parents find it difficult to do when the child should be justified. In education, child, parents should not only actively promote the child's physical and mental health conditions, we must teach kids to be frugal savings, preventing develop the bad habit of wasteful spending.
2, Yan Li instead of
Concerned about the love and the stringent requirements for fostering children's good moral character and habits are two aspects of the unity of opposites. How to talk in front of concern and care of the problem, look here to revisit the question of the stringent requirements.
Parents of the "severity" of the understanding of different, and some think that "strict" is "severe", the child should be given well-intentioned but unable to give good face, the child is only afraid of their parents, in order to educate. Some believe that the "severity" is disobedient is necessary to corporal punishment, in favor of "No pain, no talent" at all. These perceptions are wrong, for today's kids take this approach to be ineffective.
If the child frequently corporal punishment, reprimand, the child does not want to close to their parents. Children if parents at arm's length, or neither respected nor close to, but do not want to talk with their parents, which is difficult to achieve good educational effect. As for corporal punishment, corporal punishment, the kind of behavior where and what we call "strict requirements" of incompatibility of water and fire. Easily beats a child's parents, and injustice can not make children and correct their mistakes, but so that the child's emotional and spiritual being destroyed, become cold, low self-esteem and lack of self-esteem, or even because their parents could not bear the beatings while away from home, we can see that For the children of corporal punishment is only sensible and helpless parents, the lack of performance, it is impossible to play the effect of strict requirements.
We are talking about the stringent requirements is based on the child's level of development and age characteristics in order to achieve good educational results as the prerequisite. If the "severity" reached the grid, it will go to the opposite, for which parents must follow the following points:
First of all, the parents request is reasonable and is in line with the actual situation the child was a child there are physical and mental health. Require four children follow their parents behind to go whatever way is possible, but requires the child with his parents as far gone as fast as the unreasonable.
Secondly, the parents request to be appropriate, the children can be done through the efforts, if the demand is too high, the child can not be achieved even after work, it will make the child lose confidence, it fails to educational effect.
Again, the requirements of the child must be clear and specific, let the children to understand should be doing, how dry, can not be ambiguous, let the children know what to do.
Finally, the parents of the child's request has been made, we must supervise their children carefully done, can not be said of the count, or dry is also OK, and quit is also OK, but must let the child do it, otherwise pleasant educational effect
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